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Fury as Millennial Man Wants Kids With Wife, Then She Drops the ‘Bombshell’
It isn’t unusual for couples to discuss their life goals while dating, and even more so when a wedding is on the cards. But one man has recently discovered his wife wasn’t truthful at the start of their relationship, leaving him heartbroken over 10 years later.
The 34-year-old man, who goes by u/DavoBoy_887, explained that he instantly knew his wife, now 33, was the one. He notes that he made it “very clear” that he wanted a family, and she would smile and nod.
What happened a few years into their marriage has left the internet in total shock, gathering 13,000 upvotes. The man stated that they started to talk about conceiving a few years into their marriage, but things took an unexpected turn.
“She finally drops the bombshell—she has known since before we even met that she has a medical condition that makes it impossible for her to conceive. Not unlikely. Not difficult. Impossible,” he wrote.
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According to the CDC, 8.5 percent of married women aged 15–49 are infertile in the U.S.
“I was stunned. It wasn’t even just that she couldn’t have kids—it was that she knew all along and never told me. Not when we were dating. Not when I expressed over and over how much I wanted children. Not before we got married,” he wrote.
When asked why she didn’t tell him this from the get-go, the woman said she didn’t want to lose him. But now, he has started questioning his relationship.
“I can’t shake this overwhelming feeling of betrayal. This wasn’t some small omission. She took away my ability to make an informed decision about my future. She knew this was a dealbreaker for me and just… lied by omission.
“I feel trapped. I feel cheated. And worst of all, I don’t know what to do next,” he said.
‘Alternative Paths to Parenthood’
Rachel Goldberg, a licensed therapist specializing in infertility, spoke to Newsweek about the February 1 post.
Goldberg, located in Los Angeles, California, said: “When a relationship starts getting serious, people should absolutely disclose health conditions that could impact family planning or other major aspects of life.
“If someone knows they want kids and has been upfront about that, it’s not OK to hide potential issues with carrying a pregnancy or getting pregnant.”
She pointed out that infertility doesn’t mean you can’t have a family, as people can adopt, use a donor, or pursue surrogacy. But these alternative routes to parenthood should be discussed before two lives become fully intertwined.
“At this point, it comes down to whether the man can forgive and rebuild trust and whether they can settle on how they want their future to look. It’s not just about whether their partner is open to alternative paths to parenthood—it’s about whether she even wants to be a parent at all.
“If they’re open to other options, maybe things can be worked through, but rebuilding trust would take time. But if she doesn’t want kids, then he might have to make the difficult decision to leave in order to have the family he’s always wanted.”
Reddit Reacts
The post has riled up a lot of users, receiving more than 5,000 comments.
“NTA. Even if you had loved her enough, it wouldn’t matter. She has completely misrepresented the person you fell in love with. Not just about the kids, but that she could carry on a multi-year lie without batting an eyelash. What else is she lying about?” asked one user.
Another comment with 9,000 upvotes said: “She only cared about protecting herself, and you should now do the same.”
A third commenter wrote: “You should leave her. She betrayed you, strung you along for her own selfish wants. She completely dismissed your feelings and made you look like an idiot (sorry). She knew this was important to you but still doesn’t care because she got what she wanted. You can never trust her now. A relationship without trust is nothing.”
Newsweek reached out to u/DavoBoy_887 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.
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