Horror at What Bride’s SIL Plans to Do at Wedding, Even If She’s Uninvited: ‘Hire Security’

A bride-to-be is reconsidering her guest list after a startling message from her sister-in-law (SIL) suggested she might disrupt the wedding in an especially messy way—even if she is not invited.

“Yes, I think she would do it,” assured the bride turned Reddit user Candid_Island_5280, who sparked concern from some online supporters who believe the original poster (OP) should take precautions to prevent potential chaos on her big day.

‘What I’m going to do’

The bride explained this week that after almost a decade since she and her husband married by court, they were preparing for their long-awaited big Catholic wedding ceremony.

While most of the planning was complete, long simmering family tensions resurfaced when her SIL sent a meme showing a newlywed couple being covered in cake by guests.

Along with the image, the SIL included a message stating, “This is what I’m going to do to the both of you at your wedding.”

When the bride responded that such behavior would get her uninvited, the SIL doubled down, saying, “Even if you don’t invite me, I’ll show up and still do it.”

The OP’s concern is not unfounded. She recounted a past incident when she had planned a birthday dinner for her husband and the SIL insisted on bringing an extra cake—only to throw it at him.

Prepare For Disruptions

While some might dismiss this as a cultural tradition in Hispanic families, the bride pointed out that they had never celebrated that way before, nor did she consider it appropriate for a wedding.

Reddit users overwhelmingly advised the bride to take her SIL’s threats seriously. One user suggested she, “Get a couple of your biggest, most intimidating friends to serve as ushers/security.”

Another agreed that the OP should, “Hire security and have them present and surrounding you when you get to the cake-cutting part of the party.”

According to DMAC Security, hiring security for weddings has become increasingly common to prevent disruptions from intoxicated guests, unwanted attendees and potential acts of property damage.

The firm advises that wedding security can provide crowd control, surveillance and emergency response, ensuring the event proceeds smoothly.

Handling Family Conflicts Before They Escalate

Tensions with in-laws can sometimes lead to hostility, especially when jealousy or long-standing conflicts are involved.

Experts at Parenting FirstCry note that toxic behavior from a SIL can manifest as manipulation, criticism, or attempts to create conflict. They recommend addressing these issues directly and setting clear expectations about behavior at important events.

The OP told Redditors in the comments section that after being with her husband for almost 13 years, she was prepared to have her in-laws miss their upcoming nuptials if necessary.

“We are paying for the wedding ourselves and I’ve made it clear I’m not inviting certain people I don’t want at my wedding,” the bride declared.

Newsweek has contacted Candid_Island_5280 for comment via Reddit.

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