Man Ends 2-Month Relationship After Woman Won’t Stop Asking the Same Question: “Fixated”
May 30, 2025
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A man has been applauded for breaking up with his partner after she repeatedly demanded specific details about how much money he had.
The man and original poster (OP), user FinestTreesInDa7Seas, shared his story to Reddit, explaining that their two-month relationship had been relatively casual, with no discussions of living together or long-term planning.
While he had disclosed general information about his financial independence—such as having paid off his home by 24 and not needing to work—he had been firm with his partner about not revealing how much money he had.
According to his post, his girlfriend soon became “fixated” on his finances.
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“Her personality started changing,” the OP wrote. “She constantly talked about lavish things she wants to do, like expensive trips, etc. And most of all, she did not give up on the questions about my finances.
“This continued consistently, and she would ask me specifically how much money I had, and how much I had invested, etc.”
He continued, “Each time she asked about it, I set a clear boundary by saying that I didn’t think we were at a stage of our relationship where we should ask each other things like that.
“She would agree, and then slowly weasel her way back into the topic by the next time we saw each other.”
In his post, the OP emphasized that his stance wasn’t about secrecy but about a sense of privacy and control over personal information in the early stages of dating.
He also noted that his previous experiences with money had taught him to be cautious—mentioning lost friendships and severed family ties over financial disputes.
His decision to break up was met with mixed reactions from friends, with several saying he was being immature and unfair. Support on Reddit, however, was more unanimous.
‘Hard pass’
“Woman here. NTA. She showed red flags all over the place. It was too important to her, she repeatedly broke your boundaries, and it was too early,” said one Reddit user.
Another added, “Real talk here, friend. If she asked you once to ensure that you aren’t El Chapo’s long-lost cousin, I get that… That’s fair.
“But to keep fixating on what she would like to do with your money? Nah. Hard pass. Time to move on.”
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The relationship dynamic described in this thread has parallels with another widely shared story, in which a woman broke up with her boyfriend after he labeled her a gold digger for requesting compensation for unpaid labor in the home.
In her post, cited by Newsweek, she said, “I wasn’t asking for designer items, I was asking for fair compensation for my labour.” Her boyfriend, however, accused her of being a gold digger, despite his own refusal to contribute equally to household tasks.
Rachel Marmor, a licensed mental health counselor at the PAIRS Foundation, told the outlet that the woman’s decision to leave was appropriate: “She stood up for herself, which is important in any partnership.”
Communication is Key
Licensed clinical psychologist Reginald K. Riggins told Newsweek, “Couples who have been together for an extended period of time should have routine, open dialogue regarding finances.
“This helps with building trust, establishing safety, avoiding financial disagreements, and it communicates that both parties are invested in the relationship.
“Communication is the number one issue that couples encounter, and so it’s extremely important to confront potential issues versus avoiding them.”
Red Flags
WebMD’s medical guide on romantic exploitation explains that early and frequent curiosity about financial status can be a warning sign.
According to WebMD, “It is normal for people in a serious relationship or marriage to want to know the financial status of their partners.
“However, if someone questions you about how much you earn and what you have in the bank on the first or second date, it might be a red flag.”
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