Shock at What Delivery Man Says to Woman on Her Birthday: ‘Upsetting’

A woman could barely believe what a delivery driver said to her on her birthday.

Sophie Grant, from Surrey in the U.K., took to TikTok to reveal what happened when she received an order of groceries from the supermarket chain Sainsbury’s.

In a video posted under the handle @sophiegrant_, Grant described how the delivery man spotted the “sea” of pink balloons behind her as she opened her front door and proceeded to congratulate her on her “gender reveal.”

“No, I’m not pregnant, just fat,” Grant said on the video. “If you need me I’ll be on my walking pad, burning off the 20-week fetus that he thinks I have in my stomach.”

Though she laughed it off in the video, Grant was understandably shocked at the comment.

“I was a little surprised because to me, seeing pink balloons and assuming gender reveal is a bit of a reach!” she told Newsweek.

Research suggests a significant proportion of women receive unrequested comments or compliments about their appearance online.

In 2022, an IPSOS survey found that 20 percent of U.S. women receive unrequested comments compared with 7 percent of American men.

However, in the same poll, 23 percent of U.S. respondents said they thought sending unrequested comments or compliments to someone on their physical appearance was acceptable.

Though Grant was not overly bothered, the remark was still a surprise and came at a time when she is dealing with health issues that can impact her appearance.

“I have endometriosis and suffer from severe bloating, so I have had people ask in the past if I’m pregnant—family members, people at work,” she said. “It can be a bit upsetting, but in this scenario, I don’t even think I looked bloated or pregnant!”

Grant said that while it was difficult to shake off the uneasiness of the situation, partly because the driver quickly realized his mistake, she didn’t take it personally.

“I just laughed it off because I felt a bit awkward, and then instantly I felt bad for him, as I could tell he was feeling awkward,” she said. “Even though he was the one in the wrong, I felt bad for him and reassured him it was OK after he’d apologized.”

Many of the comments accompanying the video centered on similar experiences viewers had gone through.

One wrote: “I was visiting my grandfather in the hospital and a nurse came up to me, said ‘awww!’ and put her hand on my belly! I couldn’t think of anything to do except look horrified and say ‘No!’ repeatedly.”

Another said: “Don’t worry, the 5th time someone asked if I was expecting I just glared at them and said…no I’m just fat.”

Grant shared the video as part of her ongoing journey through endometriosis as it was something she felt many women would be able to “relate to.”

“I hope that people will think twice before making assumptions about pregnancy, you never know what someone is going through and how a comment can affect them,” she said. “Luckily I’m quite thick-skinned, but I know it can be really upsetting for some people!”