Woman Asks BF to See Movie—Not Ready For His ‘Meltdown’ After

A young woman is appealing for advice online after questioning whether her boyfriend’s repeated “meltdowns” are genuine, or a tactic to avoid doing things she enjoys.

Posting under the Reddit username Low-Camel3318 this week, the 22-year-old woman said she and her same-age boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. They do not live together.

The original poster (OP) asked him to see Wuthering Heights in theaters, explaining that she is a fan of Charli XCX, who created the soundtrack.

‘Moaning’

According to her post, her boyfriend told her the movie was, “not up his alley,” and that he, “shouldn’t have to be forced to do something he doesn’t want to do.”

When the woman visited him the next day to confirm plans, he said he had been feeling “off.”

Moments later, the OP shared, he hid under pillows and blankets, moaning and telling her to be quiet.

She noted that her boyfriend is autistic and that she has tried to be understanding. Yet she began to question the timing, pointing out that he had no issue attending two metal concerts with friends, while outings she suggests often coincide with similar episodes.

“I do not want to be the person to say, ‘OMG, he’s faking it,’ because I know how that feels, I just am so lost right now,” she admitted.

The Reddit case drew responses from pundits who offered starkly different interpretations amid almost 300 comments in two day.

“OK, hear me out,” one individual began, “Option 1—he’s not faking. He genuinely gets so stressed at the thought of attempting to do something you like (and he doesn’t) that it builds and builds and builds into a complete meltdown.

“If he listens and you guys work on a plan to incorporate your interests into dates, cool. If he gets defensive and doesn’t want to work on it or discuss how he can, [I don’t know], address it with his therapist for coping strategies… well. If he won’t try, why should you?

‘You deserve better’

The individual offered: “Option 2—he’s faking it. Why would you want to be with a manipulative and immature guy who doesn’t care about you and what makes you happy?

“If he’s to scared to talk to you about it and uses that as his reason, then he’s an immature man-child who’s terrible at communicating and you deserve better.”